My heart has broken this week over the loss of Kate Spade and Tony Bourdain. It broke my heart even further to read so many comments on social media about them being “selfish”, “cowards”, only suffering from “temporary problems” and that they should have “just gotten help.” Which they are both known to have done, many times over.
For those of us engaged in the lifetime struggle with depression and/or bipolar disorder, our biggest daily achievement is often survival. Clinical depression is not the “blues” or being sad when a relationship ends (or some other temporary problem)- it is your emotions being hijacked by your own misfiring brain. Don’t confuse the way a depressed person’s thoughts turn inward with selfishness. When you’re waging an internal war, taking a shower and putting on clean clothes may be the only battle you have energy for that day. Instead of blame, please try some empathy for what kind of hell someone must be living in to genuinely believe a beloved child or spouse would be better off without them. That the world would be better place without them. We know that depression and bipolar disorder kill. So does judgment. So does stigma.
Today, I am still breathing. That is enough.
Reblogged this on cabbagesandkings524 and commented:
Christine Ray – Those who blame and harshly judge those who loose the battle with depression do not know of what they speak and are not helping.
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The cruelty of people has no limit. I’m sorry they were unable to stay longer. I hope they found peace and are finally happy. Don’t read social media…it’s poison.
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I do try to avoid reading the comments section on most forms of social media as it can lead to despair.
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My heart has broken too. Thank you for this post.
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You are most welcome Bojana. It eased my mind to say this aloud.
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Oh, well said…very glad that I missed all those judgemental comments (this time). My life is good right now and I am grateful daily for that, but I am always aware that crashes into despair can and do happen for me. I talk much more openly about my depression and anxiety now. Not just to encourage those like me, but to let the judgemental ones know it CAN happen to the people you’d least suspect… great post; thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
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You are most welcome. I agree that it is so important to speak our truths about depression for exactly those reasons.
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Reblogged this on Talkin' to Myself and commented:
From the pen of Brave & Reckless. So very, very true
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I reblogged this. It is close to home.
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I am honored.
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